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The Sex Lives of the Pelvic Floor: Part 1 of a 3 Part Series

Our pelvic floor muscles form the base of our spine and deep core. They wear many hats:  bladder and bowel elimination, sexual activity, support and stability, pressure management, and shock absorption. I often refer to this group of muscles as Grand Central Station: there are a million convoluted routes to take! There is a TON going on down there. Not only are there about 16-20 muscles, but numerous ligaments, tendons, nerves, and fascial connections that help us complete ADLs/IADLs without the very embarrassing occurrence of urinary or bowel leakage and passing gas uncontrollably. Carter et al. (2015) found that a strong and coordinated pelvic floor leads to enhanced sexual function and higher levels of sexual activity. To me, this is reason enough to learn about the backstage crew. 

Let’s talk about what roles these pelvic floor muscles & organs play in our favorite occupation - sex!

 

Before we start, we’ll get into the nitty-gritty with a quick...

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Debunking Reasons We Avoid Talking Sex After Spinal Cord Injury: Wrapping Up Our SCI Series

When it comes to discussing sexuality with our clients, occupational therapy practitioners (OTPs) and other healthcare providers can come up with all sorts of justifications not to. But here's the thing: most of these justifications have more to do with our own biases than with the clients themselves. It's time to challenge those biases and ask ourselves, "Why am I avoiding this conversation?"

Here are some common biases that hold us back from addressing sex:

"They have so many other things to worry about right now. Sex is probably the last thing on their mind." 

Look, we can't read minds. We have no idea what our clients are thinking unless we ask them. Just because they don't bring it up doesn't mean they don't have concerns. By initiating the conversation early on, we create a safe space for them to discuss their sexual well-being whenever they're ready.

"I don't want to offend them based on their background or beliefs." 

I've heard it all: "They're conservative,"...

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The Vital Role of OTs in Addressing Sex & Intimacy after SCI: Part Two of a Three Part Series

 

Welcome to the second part of our three-part series on addressing sexuality and intimacy after spinal cord injury (SCI). Today, we’ll delve deeper into the crucial role that Occupational Therapists (OTs) play in supporting individuals with SCI in this aspect of their lives. With their expertise and unique perspective, OTs can provide invaluable guidance and interventions to empower SCI patients and promote a positive and fulfilling sexual experience. The OT can be the shining light of comfort and advocacy! OTs are perfectly situated to lead these efforts in a clinical setting both for their patients and for the interdisciplinary team. Let's continue our exploration of the strategies and approaches that OTs employ in this domain.

Education and Understanding:

One of the primary responsibilities of OTs is to educate SCI patients about the impact of their injury on sexual health. By providing comprehensive education, OTs help individuals understand the changes in their...

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Sex & Intimacy After a Spinal Cord Injury: Part One of a Three Part Series

As Sexuality and Intimacy Trailblazers, we know that sexuality and intimacy are important parts of our lives, bringing us joy and enhancing our overall well-being. However, when someone experiences a spinal cord injury (SCI), these aspects can be profoundly affected. Today, we'll discuss when to address these topics, the impacts of SCI on sexual health, specific complications that can arise, and the role of occupational therapy in supporting individuals on this journey.

When to Address Sex and Intimacy:

So, the big question is: when should we start talking about sex and intimacy with SCI patients? 

The answer? at every point in their occupational therapy (OT) engagement! 

It's not about when exactly, but more about what to focus on depending on where the individual is in their injury timeline. In the inpatient setting, when people have recently experienced acute trauma, they may benefit from SCI sexuality education. On the other hand, those receiving outpatient care have...

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3 Things to Know About Sexuality and Intimacy: An Occupational Therapy Approach [New Textbook Announcement!]

"Sexuality and intimacy contain so much more than the act of sexual activity. Beyond the physical mechanics of “sexual activity,” sexual and intimate occupations encompass a broad range of personally meaningful activities for building intimate partnerships, developing a sense of self, actualizing desire, and experiencing pleasure.” - Ellis & Ungco, 2023.

TLDR: Love the quote, ready to order? Click here to order the textbook.

Want the back story? Read on...

In 2017, I sent the first email to AOTA Press pitching a new sexuality textbook. I wanted a sexuality textbook that infused OT’s moto of living life fully throughout the content. A textbook that celebrated and gave intervention strategies for thriving versus surviving. A textbook that wasn’t afraid to talk about pleasure and acknowledges OT’s role in intimate social skills. A textbook that offered a broad lens of sexuality reflective of our own personal realities and the...

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5 Things to Know About Sex Work

Occupational therapy professionals will work with clients who may hire sex workers or who would benefit from working with a sex worker.   

 

Here are 5 things OTs need to know to be prepared to address sex work with clients and to advocate for destigmatizing sex work:

 

  1. Sex work is work. Sex work is a consensual transaction between adults, where the act of selling or buying sexual services is not a violation of human rights. Sex work is an umbrella term that can include escort services, street-level sex workers, pornography, exotic dancing, massage, internet work, phone sex operators and third-party support (drivers, managers, bartenders etc.). Sex work is NOT sexual exploitation or trafficking. If the exchange is non consensual, it is violence, and is not considered sex work under the definitions of the World Health Organization.
    Like any career, sex work is deserving of respect, non-judgement, and professionalism. 
  2. Sex workers...
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Helping Parents of Teens with Autism Talk about Dating and Sex: 5 Tips for Occupational Therapists

The topic of dating and romance can be quite difficult to initiate with parents of adolescent clients, especially those with autism. However, as an occupational therapist (OT), you can help parents create a safe, calm, and judgment-free space for their teens to freely express their desires.

Here are five tips to help you initiate a healthy conversation about dating and sex with parents of teens with autism:

  1. Use open & validating dialogue: Encourage parents to validate their teen's desires and create a safe and non-judgmental environment for open communication. Acknowledge the discomfort and awkwardness that parents might feel, and encourage them to persist through the discussions.
    • Examples of things parents can say:Yes, I know these feelings can be a little confusing or awkward," or  “It’s ok, you’re just learning how to date or ask people out.”
  2. Ask questions about your teen's dating interests: Use initial questions to help...

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[Research Spotlight] LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Care: Upholding Professional Responsibilities

I recently read an AJOT study that I couldn’t wait to share with you all as it shows the power of continuing education.

A study conducted last year by Bolding et al. (2022) examined the knowledge, clinical preparedness, and attitudinal awareness of occupational therapy practitioners, in regards to the LGBTQIA+ folks. This self-report study was broken down by category and found that on a scale of 1-7, respondents scored a mean of 4.7 in their Knowledge about queer populations, 4.4 in Clinical Preparedness, and 5.6 in Attitudinal Awareness.

There were a number of factors that contributed to respondents scoring significantly higher in all three sub-scales, including a graduate degree in OT, past or present experience in mental health settings, or respondents with a close friend or family member who identifies as SGM (sexual gender minorities e.g., agender, bisexual, gay, lesbian, gay, gender non-conforming, transgender). Academic preparedness and continuing education...

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OTPF Body Structure and Function Highlight

 

 

Despite anecdotal evidence regarding the potential for pleasure from anal play, it remains a taboo subject in the context of female sexuality. This partly stems from the fact that we often associate anal pleasure specifically with anal sex, namely anal penetration of a penis, which can be a daunting proposition for a woman who has never experimented with any sort of anal stimulation.

But what if we looked at anal play as just as varied as the different flavors of ice cream and numerous options for toppings on an ice cream sundae?? 

Prior to their first experience with vaginal intercourse, most women experiment with other forms of vaginal and clitoral stimulation – be that masturbation, fingering, or oral sex with a partner – so why don’t we consider the potential for anal stimulation to be just as diverse and gradual? 

To compound the issue, the research surrounding anal pleasure for women is influenced by this same...

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Integrating Pleasure Throughout the Day

 

The Occupational Therapy Practice Framework 4th edition define "routines" as:

 "Routines For persons, groups, and populations: Patterns of behavior that are observable, regular, and repetitive and that provide structure for daily life. They can be satisfying and promoting or damaging. Routines require momentary time commitment and are embedded in cultural and ecological contexts (Fiese et al., 2002; Segal, 2004; see Table 6)."

Working with clients on their sexual routines is one of my top 5 ways I fall in love with OT again and again - every time.  It reminds me how perfectly situated Occupational Therapy Professionals are to discuss sexuality in our clinical practice. We understand the impact of routines and specifically how occupations are sequenced together to facilitate participation, satisfaction, quality of life, and in some cases a great roll in the hay!

Working with your clients to have and enjoy sex needs to involve a conversation...

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